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Monthly Archives: April 2017

Strong Woman in Relationships

Is the longest relationship you have ever had been a month or two and even that survived because you literally begged the man not to leave you. Well, a lot of women are in a similar situation and no matter what they do, the men in their lives take a run for their lives immediately they start dating them. The friends around you seem to be having long and lasting relationship while you on the other hand cant seem to attract any one and the one you attract cant seem to stay. It is time you become a woman a man can not simply ignore.

It is time you sat down and tried to analyze what you used to do in the previous relationships that your partners run. If you looked deeper you will realize that they all complained of the same things. Never ever nag a man. A nagging woman is the most annoying thing to a man. There is a degree of nagging that a man can take and for your case, they could only be taking if for a few months. After the three months, they simply cannot not stand it. You could be nagging about him not coming to visit you as often as he can, or him not giving you enough attention. Just because he does not love you the way you would like to be loved, doesn’t mean, he does not love you. Stop nagging and keep a man with you.

Try to keep the relationship active by doing different things. Play with him, go out, do something out of the ordinary with him. Doing the same thing over and over again is boring and it will not be long till you bore him out of your life. Go watch a movie or go dancing in a local club. You do not have to spend a lot of money going out. You can even go and take a stroll in the parks and enjoy the fresh air. Every time you feel your life has become more of a routine, change it. Changing it could be enough reason to keep a man interested in you for a long time.

Do not expect the man to pay all your bills in your relationship. Be independent a little. Not too independent to make him feel you do not need him in your life. Let him get some of the bills when you go out. Once in a while split the bill and help him pay. Be an interesting person to be with. Give him a reason to miss your company. Do not be gloomy all the time, smile once in a while. There is power in a smile. Do not be needy and act like you need him so much. It is a great turn off. If you follow this small advice you will certainly be a woman a man would want to keep for life in a relationship


A Crush

Every one of us has at least had a crush at one particular time or another. As we grow old, the number of times we have crushes gradually fades. That means that at one time or another you might be confronted with another crush and you had better be prepared to deal with it. You can say you have a crush on someone if you find yourself wanting to spend a lot of time with him or her, everything they do seem to be smart or nice even if it is not, or you have a big interest in someone. Some crushes go right ahead and develop into some good relationship while other develop into an obsession that is not good.

Regardless of what people say, you should let the person you have a crush on know about it. Believe it or not, after letting your heart out, you will feel much better and the pressure you were feeling before telling them will disappear. You will stop sweating whenever they are around, knocking everything down and simply going speechless whenever they pass around. You have to admit these are very awkward feeling to carry around and the faster you can get rid of it the better. Whatever the person you have a crush on says or does after you tell them should not worry you. It could actually help you get over them if they went ahead and brushed you off or asked you to stay away or it could lead to a wonderful relationship with them.

You can also ask the person out. It is important that you get to know the person and the best way to do this is to go out with them. Choose a nice place that you can be able to converse. People love intelligent people and good conversationalist. If you have the two combinations, make use of them and charm your date to liking you. When you are out with them, do not do something crazy that will make them run away from you. Just like any other first date, do not get drunk or be late in picking them up or arriving at the agreed place. Keep time and dress decently. Try to make them like you too and get into a relationship with you.

Finally be yourself. It is a crush and you are bound to act weird but try as much as possible to act normal. He or She is a normal person with feeling just like you and me. You love them and most probably obsessed about them. But do not over do it and in turn drive them away so that everytime they see you they make a run for it. Treat him or her like you would treat any other person or your friends. Do not make it hard for them to approach you. You can never know, the feeling might be mutual. If you act and sound disinterested when you are around your crush, you will drive him or her to detest you. Remember, there are crushes that can lead to wonderful relationships, so be nice.


About Honest in Relationships

Too much of anything might not be good for you just like being too honest with your partner might not be. We all have secrets and perhaps some secrets are better left unsaid. If you have a new partner and you feel you want to trust him or her i would tell you to go right a head and trust them. What i will not tell you is to be totally honest. Its possible to trust someone without necessarily telling them everything about yourself. Sometimes being too honest can ruin your relationship. Being too honest might not be a good thing.

We all want to know exactly what the person we are having a relationship with thinks or do but sometimes what we do not know will not hurt us. There are things that our partners do that if they told us we would never love them again. We might also never look at them the same way we used to look at them before they told us the truth. The respect you had for them also disappears because they did something that you would not have dared to do yourself. That is why sometimes letting what happened in the past be in the past is a good approach to life. You should be satisfied with what you know about them and trust them enough not to hurt you.

However, sometimes being honest is good. Telling half truths sometimes only worsen the situation. Sometimes being honest saves the partner from finding out something through other sources. Things that you should have told them yourself before they found out from someone else. Relationships have been known to break because a partner could not simply tell the truth or that they hid some truth from their partner. Being honest will also help you be at peace with yourself. You will not worry about your partner finding out something you did from some other people. You will rest knowing what ever you did your partner is okay with it and that they are supporting you and they love you just the way you are.

Whatever you decide in your relationship and whatever your heart feels comfortable with is what you should do. If you feel being totally honest with your partner will not change the way they see you then you should go ahead and tell them everything and not hide. However, if you feel your partner will judge you and maybe leave you then you can choose to tell them half truth. At the end of it all, there has to be some level of honesty in your relationship. You will be the one to decide how much will hurt your relationship and how much will not. Know the person you are relating with, get to know what they expect of you and what they do not. If the person can not handle the truth, spare them and tell them half truths, if they can bear to be told the whole truth and nothing but the truth, go ahead, knock them out, they will recover.


Why Women Stay In Abusive Relationships?

Among the serious reasons why women stay in abusive relationships is because of lack of knowledge. The bible says that my people perish because of lack of knowledge. Information is a very important tool especially in relationships. In a relationship, two people from different families live together and it is not as simple as it sounds. Women have limited knowledge about legal and housing rights. Some know about it but have problems in expressing themselves. The language becomes a problem and the responses from the service providers discourage them to open up. Lack of funds and also living in isolated areas inhibit them from getting the appropriate help. Another major reason is economic dependency. Money is the root of all evil. People put up with trash especially if there is money.

A woman might choose to stay in an abusive relationship just because the idea of being a single mother sends a chill of cold blood down her spine. The society has demonized single mothers as people who are not complete and are criticized at any given opportunity. The church will intimidate the woman and her children, the children might be ridiculed at school and the responsibility of raising the children alone might be scary. The woman might lose her job and the legal wrangles concerning finance and property are not any less tasking. Many reasons why women stay in abusive relationships surround the issue of children. They are the major reason women put up with abuse in relationships. They want the best for the children and more so to grow up seeing their father.

Among the reasons why women stay in abusive relationships is isolation. Their partners have made sure that they have created social isolation in their lives. They are separated from sources of any support. They are not close to friends and family so they cannot tell them about their ordeal because of fear of judgement. Another reason has to do with cultural beliefs. They have been brought up to believe that being a wife and a mother is the only good thing. Their culture teaches that divorce is wrong. They often feel emotional confusion. There are conflicting feelings of shame, fear and care for the violent man. They keep on hoping that things will get better. Their self esteem is destroyed and so they don’t believe they can do anything on their own.